Happy Friday! This guest post is from a fellow blogger and my childhood friend, Karissa of Preppy California. I wanted to introduce you to her since we’ll be collaborating for a fun blog project soon. 😉 Stay tuned for that!
5 Ways to become your best self
By: Karissa Hoshiwara of Preppy CaliforniaA lifetime goal I’ve always had was to be the best person I could be. I don’t think we will all of a sudden wake up and be that person. I think
it’s something we work toward being every day — with every step and every decision we make. We learn that some decisions have consequences. From consequences, we learn to make other decisions that help shape the person that we are as well as the person that we continue to grow to become. I’ve created a list of 5 mini goals that we can set to strive to be the best person we can be.
- Figure out what keeps you grounded — Whether it’s your faith, friends, or family, or something else, figure it out. Use it to your advantage. If it’s faith, grow deeper in that faith. Surround yourself with friends and family who you can talk to. People that you can “do life with,” Not people you have to pretend around. Because that’s just more work than we all need.
- Take “solo” time — Do something that you enjoy for yourself. How can you help others and do a good job if your tank is empty? For some people, it’s reading a book. For others, it’s watching a movie. We live in a busy world where everyone is trying to fill their schedules to show they’re the busiest. It’s not a competition. Take 15 minutes to yourself when you’re feeling overwhelmed. Shut the door. It’s okay to say that you need a break.
- Surround yourself with people who have your best interests — Have good friends! I can’t stress this enough. Your family will always be there, but you can influence yourself based on the friends you keep. Choose friends who are positive and who will be there for you in times of need. And be that friend to them too. It’s natural for friendships to drift apart. Some people you will be friends with for your whole life and others are only around for a season. If there’s a friend or two that are constantly having a negative effect on you, take a step back.
- Find a job you absolutely love — I know this one is a tough one, especially since our society is based on needing to work for money to live. However, if you’re unhappy at your job, is it really worth it? Sure it might’ve started out as something temporary until you found that dream job, but what’s stopping you from finding that now? Face the facts: You have a job that pays, but you aren’t happy. Is it really worth it to invest more time in a job that makes you miserable? Wouldn’t it be better for you, and ultimately everyone around you, if you had a job you actually loved? Instead of complaining about your job, you could actually share the good things. Trust me, it makes a world of difference if you have a job your love. Even though some days are tougher than others, the good outweighs the bad.
- Don’t overcommit yourself — Say, “NO.” Seriously. This is a lesson that has taken me YEARS to learn. And I’m honestly still working on it. However, having the power to say “no” helps you to not feel overwhelmed with various commitments and gives you balance. When it’s something you really feel passionate about, say yes. But if it’s something you won’t be able to give 100% to, it’s okay to say no. Even if it’s a “no” to going out with friends. If you’re feeling exhausted, don’t force yourself to go out. Take that solo time.
Let’s all strive to be the best person that we can all be. Let’s not settle for less.
Karissa Hoshiwara is the creator of Preppy California. Though she grew up in Northern California, she eventually made the move down to Southern California to attend Azusa Pacific University and never left. She is now living in Pasadena, California working in Special Education at a local high school. She loves to share about life as she’s learning about it herself!